Learning Positive Friendship Skills
3 simple ways to guide your children to adopt positive friendship skills
We were all born with the ability to socialise and interact with others. It is in our nature to make friends and have the need to support others, talk to them, and the most importantly to laugh and spend good times together.
We say that the one of the greatest things is to have best friends from a very young age and grow old together. Friends that you grow up together, and help you fight difficulties and embrace the changes. There are many people who are at their 30s, 40s and even 50s and more, that still have friends from the time they were in school.
It wasn’t easy though. We all needed someone to guide us on how to express ourselves and to respect others while doing it. This is the part where you, as parents, come to assist your children with.
It is one of your main responsibilities to take care the mental health of your children. In order to help them build good relationships with others you need to teach them that everything starts within us and then spreads to others.
There are 3 simple ways to guide your children in order to adopt positive friendship skills.
The Art of Sharing
You need to develop the feeling of sharing from a young age. The children who tend to share their toys and food seem to be more open to make new friends or enter new challenges. As parents we also need to explain the reasons behind the power of sharing. Do not demand for it to happen, but encourage them, and explain that by doing a good thing and letting the other child play with their toys, good things will come back to them. Always remember to raise limits on sharing. You do not want other children to take advantage of the goodwill that your children have. Remember that a child with a bad behaviour is a child that lack attention.
Focus on their Hobbies
Children are so energetic and want to try everything just to see if they like it, or even are good at it. You should encourage your children to try different hobbies, especially the ones that they have to be part of a team, like sports. You will get the chance to learn more about your children if you encourage them to paint what they feel or write what they think. By helping them to express and guide them to be a part of a team, you eventually helping them to build self-esteem and self-confidence. These abilities are crucial especially for children that are shy.
The Power of Discussion
Sometimes children feel that no one understands them. Feel that they are different from others and as a result they close to themselves by shutting people out. You need to be one step ahead. You must always try to make a discussion with them and by all means, try to first listen! Most of the times, children just need one person to hear them. And this does not apply only to children, but of course, you already know this. After you spend time listening to them and their problems, try to advise them by mentioning similar situations that you faced or make up a story with the aim to help them understand their feelings and how they should react. By this way you help them expose themselves, to always speak for something that troubles them, and present themselves as who they are to others in order to create healthy and true friendships.
Have a look at our books. A story always finds a way to influence children, so think about a story with them as heroes what more can achieve!