5 Tips to Raise an Optimist
Optimism is essential to achievement and it is also the foundation of courage and true progress.
1. Quit complaining.
It is so easy to complain out loud while cleaning the house, or driving or having to feed the kids etc. Focusing on negative thoughts or showing constant frustration is the fuel of a pessimist. We need to be aware that people are hearing our words, and just like we do not enjoy listening to anyone complain, they are not enjoying our complaining either.
Our children copy our behaviors, so it is extremely important to behave the way we want our children to behave.
Make an effort to create conversations based on ‘What was the best part of your day?’ and ‘I met the nicest person today…’ and ‘ The coolest thing happened today!’ and so on.
This is training the mind to focus on the positive parts of the day.
2. Allocate Responsibility and expect results.
From a young age, parents need to give responsibilities to their children and expect their children to complete certain tasks in the house. The reason this is extremely crucial is because it allows them to experience the achievement emotion from a young age. They feel good about themselves for completing a seemingly adult task and they start developing a confidence In their abilities.
This is a proven way for a child to develop a ‘can – do ‘attitude and prove their worth. An added benefit is that by giving them the responsibility it shows that you trust their abilities. This in turn, allows them to trust themselves.
3. Encourage reasonable risk-taking.
As parents we all have a natural instinct to protect our children from various ‘dangers’. However, discouraging children from doing an activity undermines their confidence, and it allows them to indulge in pessimistic thoughts such as ‘ they aren’t strong enough’ or ‘ good enough’ etc.
4. Control your emotions.
Demonstrate a well control emotional range and they will learn to do the same. As a parent do not over react, and allow them to work out some issues on their own. If they have a dispute with another kid, instead of getting the parents involved right away, it is advised to explain to your child how to deal with such situations. This will empower their ability to resolve issues and provide them with an optimism that they handle situations as they arise.
5. Embrace difficult situations.
When children are faced with new challenges, they can feel disappointed when they can’t manage. In these type of situation, we are running the risk of having a them being very pessimistic about their abilities. It is better to deal with such situations with providing previous examples where they completed tasks successfully. Remind them that they are capable.